Southern Living...not what it's cracked up to be
I am originally from North Carollina. Â I have moved so many times in my life I have lost count. Â However, being from the south, I was certain people and living in the south was far better than being from up north. Â So when I was teenager I decided to move to a major city. Â Over the years I have lived in many places but after all this time I have finally come to realize that the south is the worst place to live. Â
One of the many good things you hear about the south is the hospitality. Â The attitude in the south is supposed to be far superior to the cold and icy feeling that the north is alleged to have. Â However, I found it to be totally the opposite. Â In the south, they don't say what they feel but put on a fact attitude of kindness because it is the accepted way to live. Â But in the north people are a lot more honest. Â So why is the south considered the place with the best hospitality?
It's because people are fake! Â They spend time telling and acting as they think you want them to. Â They say nice things to your face giving the appearance of being hospitable but the second you turn your back they put a knife in it. Â They greet you with fake smiles, fake tons, kind cliches, and other irrelevant banter. Â
In the north, people are far more honest. Â People in the north don't have time for fake behaviors and fake attitudes. Â I find that in the north people are more direct and to the point. Â For instance. Â In the south if you are invited to a party or event it would be considered rude to turn that event down or to say you don't wish to attend. Â But in the north people have a tendency to let you know immediately whether or not they plan to attend. Â
In the south it is considered rude to be honest, but in the north considered rude to say what you don't mean. Â So who is correct. Â I would rather know where a person is coming from right off the bat. Â No need to beat around the bush. Â In the north I knew where I stood, who I could trust, who did not care for me and where I was not wanted. Â In the south, people say what or do what appears to be nice but deep down don't care, but are more concerned with how they are perceived.Â
I may be born southern, but if home is where the heart is then my heart will always belong up north.