RISMEDIA, Monday, December 26, 2011â€”
In a perfect world, â€œworkâ€ and â€œhomeâ€ would balance out neatly. Weâ€™d work from 8 to 5 each day, take an hour-long lunch, and then come home and spend uninterrupted time with our families. But for those of us here in the wake of the Great Recession, firmly entrenched in an â€œalways onâ€ society, this notion seems hopelessly outdated. Most of us are working longer, more stressful hours, and work is spilling over into evenings and weekends. No wonder a recent survey of North American employees found that 87 percent of respondents say their work/life balance (or lack thereof) is negatively affecting their health.
With so many people suffering from this problem, you would think the natural solution would be to encourage businesses to help their stressed-out employees find more balance in their lives. Not so, says best-selling author Jon Gordon.
â€œWork/life balance, at least in the sense that most of us think about it, is a myth,â€ says Gordon, whose new book isÂ The Seed: Finding Purpose and Happiness in Life and Work. â€œIt does not exist. For many people, it never has. Personally, I have never been able to balance the scales of work and life on a day-to-day basis. Rather, Iâ€™ve come to realize that the dance between work and life is more about rhythm than balance.â€
Gordon compares the rhythms of work and life to the rhythms of nature. Thereâ€™s a time and a season for everything.
Read on for Gordonâ€™s advice on rethinking the concept of work/life balance and finding passion and purpose in both arenas:
First,Â let go of the work/life balance notion. Instead, think â€œpurpose and passion.â€ Itâ€™s true that work/life balance is a topic that seems to be on many minds, says Gordon, citing a recent NPR segment titled, â€œIn America, Too Much â€˜All Work, No Playâ€™?â€ But in many ways, he insists, a perfectly balanced life is a perfectly tepid life. How much balance do you think Bono has when U2 is on tour? What about an Olympic athlete preparing for a competition? Or the leadership team at Facebook? Probably not much, but their passion and purpose fuel them to work harder and longer with more joy and satisfaction in both work and life.
Look at your work/life blend over the past year. Consider it as a whole. Rather than thinking of your work and life day to day, think of it as a whole. How many times did you get away with your family last year? Were there particular weeks/months where you worked really, really long hours? Were there times you were less busy? You might find that, when viewed that way, you did have a balanced life. Or you might realize you need to make a change in the way you do things during the upcoming year.
Identify the â€œseasonsâ€ in your companyâ€™s work flow.Â In nature thereâ€™s a season for everything. Spring (planting season) and fall (harvest) are times of extreme work. But thereâ€™s a slow down in the summer when plants are growing, and, of course, winter is when farmers do other things (repair work on house and equipment, etc.).
Most industries/companies work this way, too. They have busy seasons (when theyâ€™re getting ready for major industry events or peak sales times, for instance) and not-so-busy seasons. It might be easy for you to plan your work/home life flow around these times. Not just in terms of when you plan vacations, but also in terms of daily work hours. During the slow time, itâ€™s okay to leave a little earlier each day if you know youâ€™re going to be working long hours once busy season arrives.
Keep in mind your familyâ€™s â€œseasonsâ€ too.Â Of course, you canâ€™t base everything on work schedules. There are times your family needs you more than others: birth of a new baby, when a child starts school, or when an older parent is having a crisis and needs you to care for him/her.
Build up a â€œhard workâ€ bank account with your company.Â When the company needs you to really push, push hard. (And do it cheerfully.) This way, when you need to slow down the pace or take time off, theyâ€™ll be willing to work with you. Gordon suggests you think of it as making deposits into a bank account.
When youâ€™re at work, really engage.Â Fully commit to whatever youâ€™re doing at work. Donâ€™t complainâ€”positivity goes a long way. And donâ€™t feel guilty that you are not at home. Feeling guilty is a recipe for misery and poor performance on the job and unhappiness at home. Commit fully to your season of hard work while planning for your season of rest and recharging.
â€œWhen you commit to your season of work, you wonâ€™t be tempted to watch the clock, dreading each hour that will pass before you finally get to leave work for the day,â€ says Gordon. â€œYouâ€™ll be more successful at work and feel more fulfilled.â€
When youâ€™re at home, really BE at home.Â Throw yourself into those precious family relationships. Donâ€™t spend family time thinking about work or zoning out in front of the TV or computer. Itâ€™s not about the amount of time we spend with our families, says Gordon. Itâ€™s about how engaged we are during the time we do have with them.
â€œWhen you focus on planning your life around the rhythms of work and home, you have to be fully committed to the demands of the specific season,â€ he says. â€œSo when youâ€™re in a family season, donâ€™t constantly check your BlackBerry. Donâ€™t take work calls during dinner. Devote as much of yourself as possible to your family. Use the time that you wouldnâ€™t get to spend with them if you were in a work season to do something special. Read to your child each night. Take your family on a surprise weekend trip.
â€œWhen you live your non-work season to the fullest, youâ€™ll be all the more motivated to give 110 percent when youâ€™re at work,â€ he adds.
â€œWhat Iâ€™m really talking about is making the most of your time however you spend itâ€”of making each and every moment really count,â€ says Gordon. â€œUnderstanding your rhythms and planning and committing to the seasons of your life may not help you achieve perfect work/life balance. But you will create a life that is more passionate, more productive, and happier in every way.â€
For more information, visitÂ www.JonGordon.com.