It reminds me of the game I play when I become impatient, whether it's driving (CAN YOU SAY ROAD RAGE???) or in other areas of my life.Â I like to call it "Let's look at the other side"
I'm at the bank drive thru and I send my check in the little tubey thing, the teller gets it and then POOF!Â He is GONE!!Â It starts out as a minute or two, then 5, but it feels like a FRICKIN HOUR!!Â
My side of things?Â What the hell is so FRICKIN hard about
depositing a FRICKIN check???Â COME ON!!!!!!!!!!Â I have better things
to do then sit in this FRICKIN drive thru waiting on YOU to deposit MY
The other side of things...Â I'm sure there's a reason that it's taking so long.Â I bet the poor teller has his hands tied by the bank's rules and regulations and I'm sure he wants the transaction to move along quicker too...Â he probably gets yelled at a lot by customers that are impatient and frustrated...Â Not his fault. Â
The Result:Â I calmly thank him when he gets back and sends me my deposit slip.Â I tell him to have a great day and everything is A okay.Â Whew...Â that was tough.
I am at the grocery store.Â It's a Saturday afternoon and the place is PACKED!!Â All I want to do is get a few groceries for the cookout tonight and get out, THAT'S IT!!!Â Between my brats not being on sale and countless people blocking isles while trying to figure out what kind of salad dressing they want, I am starting to get a LITTLE IRRITATED...Â I walk up to the front of the store and guess what?Â They only have 3 registers open and each one has at least 3-4 people in line.
My side of things?Â Are you FRICKIN KIDDING ME???????Â THREE LANES OPEN????Â There are 300 people in here and ONLY THREE LANES???Â Oh, and of course everybody shopping has full carts because they each have 14 KIDS TO FEED!!!Â Did the Mormon church just let out???Â (Disclaimer, the use of the old stereotype of Mormon's having a lot of children is meant in fun, I was raised Mormon so I would know a little about that!)
The other side of things:Â Well, maybe a few employees had to call in sick and they are understaffed.Â Or maybe the news of the winter storm coming tomorrow has got people stocking up to make sure they have enough food in case they can't get out.Â Man... I bet the cashiers and baggers are probably having a much worse time here than I am...Â imagine having to listen to people like me whine and complain about my lousy experience while they are stuck here working.Â Plus everybody else waiting in line is probably upset... maybeÂ I should try to lighten things up.Â
The Result:Â I start talking to people in line, first off empathizing, and then changing to subject to something lighter.Â Before I know it we are laughing and talking about American Idol and how dreamy Ryan Seacrest is.Â I'm handing out business cards and making a difference.Â Of course when I finally get to the teller I thank her for the difference she makes to all these people and tell her I appreciate her being there for me.Â From her comes the big smile...Â a little laugh, and there you have it.Â All is well...Â I have made a difference!
I am driving to my office feeling GREAT about all the GREAT things that are going to happen today!Â I have a few showings this afternoon, just picked up two new buyers last night, and I am READY TO GO!!!!!Â Then guess what happens?Â Grandpa pulls out RIGHT IN FRONT OF ME!!!!!Â Doesn't even attempt to speed up...Â grrrr...Â I ride his tail for a minute but he doesn't even notice because he is 118 years old and should have stopped driving a long long time ago!Â Okay Jared, shake it off.Â
Finally grandpa turns and I keep going down the road until...Â HONK HONK!!!!!!!!Â FRICKIN TRAIN!!!!!Â Grrr again...Â Okay, train gone, keep going...Â then the person in front of me almost slams on her brakes and then takes a quick right turn with NO WARNING AND NO TURN SIGNAL!!!!Â GGGGGGRRRRRRRRR!!!!!!!!Â
Blood pressure rising, face getting red, gripping the wheel tighter...Â deep breath, keep going.Â Almost to the office.Â Guess what?Â Crazy lady in a mini van pulls out RIGHT IN FRONT OF ME!!Â I had to hit my brakes hard, bout locked em up!!!Â I honked at her and then you know what happened?Â Well do you?Â THAT WOMAN FLIPPED ME OFF!!!!!!Â GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!!!Â Then she continued to text and put on her lipstick as she drove down the road.Â
My side of things?Â HOW CAN PEOPLE BE SO INCONSIDERATE AND SO OBLIVOUS TO OTHERS AROUND THEM?????Â I mean come on, if your going to pull out in front of me at least hit the gas and give it an effort, or wave like your sorry, that's all I want!Â Well, that and for people to pay attention a little bit!!!!
The other side of things?Â THERE IS NO OTHER SIDE!!!!!!!!!!!!!Â I'm kidding, I'm sure there is another side out there, but road rage is my weakness, I have the hardest time finding patience with it.Â I wonder why?Â Maybe it's because I am an inconsiderate driver but choose not to see it?
Where is patience lacking in your life?Â With your children?Â Spouse?Â Maybe it's with a client that just isn't quite ready to pull the trigger?Â Take a breath, empathize and take a look at the other side.Â It's all good...Â everything happens perfectly...Â
BUT GOD FOR BID IF YOU OR ANY OF YOUR CLIENTS PULL OUT IN FRONT OF ME YOU ARE GETTING A REAR VIEW MIRROR FULL OF DODGE RAM!!!!!Â :)Â
Fort Wayne Realtor Jared Christiansen
RE/Max Home Connection